Author: osa

Overcoming Your Fear of Conflict

Overcoming Your Fear of Conflict

In a dysfunctional family, rupture and repair, disconnection and reconnection isn’t modeled to you. Conflict is threatening so you betray yourself and work to keep the peace so you can avoid being abandoned. I share from my own life how I’ve overcome this and give you the specific steps for not only engaging in healthy conflict but using it for deeper connection.

Controlled By People’s Expectations

Controlled By People’s Expectations

When you’re raised in abuse and neglect, you become very aware of other people’s feelings and needs to keep yourself safer and to get your needs met. You’re sensitive to disappointing people or losing their approval or acceptance and that can lead to exhausting yourself trying to meet their expectations. I’ll share the powerful keys for working through that so you’re in control of your own life and can finally care for yourself.

Learned Helplessness & Taking Back Your Life

Learned Helplessness & Taking Back Your Life

Childhood is supposed to prepare you to be an empowered adult but childhood abuse leaves you feeling not only powerless and helpless as a child but throughout your life. The learned helplessness can impact everything from the relationships you settle for to the risks you’re unwilling to take. I’ll share the indications you’re still in learned helplessness and how to own your power and take back control of your life.

How Childhood Neglect Impacts All Your Relationships

How Childhood Neglect Impacts All Your Relationships

Emotional neglect in childhood has far reaching effects in your life. In fact, most relationship troubles are rooted in the ways you coped with not getting your needs met and the way you learned to attach to people or detach from people. You’ll learn your particular attachment style, not only to transform your relationships, but to heal from the wounds of neglect.

Boundaries With Your Dysfunctional Family

Boundaries With Your Dysfunctional Family

If you grew up in dysfunction, it can be very difficult to develop boundaries with your family in adulthood. I’ll share how to overcome the pressures to go along with the way things have been. Then I’ll give you a simple formula for expressing boundaries and some practical tips for thriving during family events.