Healing Childhood Sexual Abuse | Incest
When you’ve experienced childhood sexual abuse, you’ve suffered profound losses. Until you acknowledge and grieve the losses, a part of you remains shut off and shut down. I’ll share the 5 stages of grief you experience as part of healing from abuse and the mistakes to avoid at each stage.
Avoiding discomfort is wired into your brain as survival but it keeps you trapped in survival. To flourish in life, you have to experience discomfort. I’ll give you a new perspective when it comes to avoidance and share the empowering keys you can use to escape the comfort addiction and create your new life.
I’m joined by Andrea Tolkeim and she shares where she started in her healing journey, the challenges, the milestones, and the twists and turns along the way. You’ll be inspired and encouraged and take away some very helpful insights for your own healing journey.
There’s never been more information about healing from trauma. Information might equip you for healing or it might distract you from healing. Learn the hidden traps of more information and how to recognize if it’s actually a coping method and the steps to make your quest for knowledge empowering and fruitful.
When your needs aren’t met in childhood, you may still crave to be rescued now. Whether you’re hyper-independent or still feel powerless, there’s a secret shame in wanting to be taken care of.
I’ll show you where that comes from and how you can heal the original wound and use that desire in a way that actually empowers you.
Processing anger is a vital part of healing from abuse. The sad fact is, abuse also sets us up to suppress our anger, where we turn it inward or we lash out indiscriminately. I’ll show you how you can use anger as your ally and to heal your past and present wounds. There’s no doubt anger will be expressed, but will it hurt you or protect you?
Growing up in abuse and neglect likely means nobody was there for you. You learn to abandon yourself the way that you were abandoned. If you’re there for everyone else while you still feel alone, I share how you can learn to be there for yourself so you can guarantee you’ll never be neglected again.
In a dysfunctional family, rupture and repair, disconnection and reconnection isn’t modeled to you. Conflict is threatening so you betray yourself and work to keep the peace so you can avoid being abandoned. I share from my own life how I’ve overcome this and give you the specific steps for not only engaging in healthy conflict but using it for deeper connection.
When you’re raised in abuse and neglect, you become very aware of other people’s feelings and needs to keep yourself safer and to get your needs met. You’re sensitive to disappointing people or losing their approval or acceptance and that can lead to exhausting yourself trying to meet their expectations. I’ll share the powerful keys for working through that so you’re in control of your own life and can finally care for yourself.
Childhood is supposed to prepare you to be an empowered adult but childhood abuse leaves you feeling not only powerless and helpless as a child but throughout your life. The learned helplessness can impact everything from the relationships you settle for to the risks you’re unwilling to take. I’ll share the indications you’re still in learned helplessness and how to own your power and take back control of your life.