Steps Toward Healing

Removing the Shame From My Inner Child

Removing the Shame From My Inner Child

by Christina Enevoldsen When I was seven, I started classes in preparation for my First Communion. In the Catholic church, Communion is an expression of unity with Christ. Girls dress up like brides in white dresses and veils, symbolizing their purity. While planning for the day, I insisted to my mother that I couldn’t wear white. Normally, compliant and well-behaved,Read more

Do You Have a Self Care Plan as You Heal From Abuse?

Do You Have a Self Care Plan as You Heal From Abuse?

by Christina Enevoldsen Several years ago, my birthday was coming up and, after going through a very stressful and painful time, I was determined to have a great gift. I like choosing my own presents from my husband since the opportunities and possibilities of the hunt is half the fun. We’d just moved from Los Angeles to Arizona with onlyRead more

How To Accelerate Your Healing Journey

How To Accelerate Your Healing Journey

by Christina Enevoldsen I felt incredibly insecure about my healing process in the beginning. Most other survivors I knew, the ones really serious about healing, had hired therapists. I couldn’t afford one. I couldn’t even afford a haircut. I wondered how much I could heal without guidance and support from a professional. Whatever progress I made, would it be consideredRead more

How Do You Know If Your Memories of Sexual Abuse Are Real?

How Do You Know If Your Memories of Sexual Abuse Are Real?

by Christina Enevoldsen When I was sued by my parents for exposing the sexual abuse that was perpetrated on me by my father, my lawyer asked me a question: “How do you if know your memories of sexual abuse are real?” He was defending me against charges of defamation of character and intentional infliction of emotional distress so that wasRead more

Stop Telling Me To Forgive My Abuser

Stop Telling Me To Forgive My Abuser

by Christina Enevoldsen As much support and love as there is in the community of survivors that gather online, there is a topic that seems to divide us. I’ve rarely witnessed discussion topics that become as hostile as the issue of forgiveness. It’s easy to understand why there would be so much disagreement considering that there are so many definitionsRead more