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Rejecting Dysfunctional Family Rules

Rejecting Dysfunctional Family Rules

by Christina Enevoldsen Compliance to dysfunctional family rules was survival as a child but it was self-betrayal in adulthood. One of the most significant sources of pain and damage of my abuse comes from betrayal, especially from my parents. The man who was charged with the responsibility to protect and care for me violated my innocence and trust again andRead more

Removing the Shame From My Inner Child

Removing the Shame From My Inner Child

by Christina Enevoldsen When I was seven, I started classes in preparation for my First Communion. In the Catholic church, Communion is an expression of unity with Christ. Girls dress up like brides in white dresses and veils, symbolizing their purity. While planning for the day, I insisted to my mother that I couldn’t wear white. Normally, compliant and well-behaved,Read more

Do You Have a Self Care Plan as You Heal From Abuse?

Do You Have a Self Care Plan as You Heal From Abuse?

by Christina Enevoldsen Several years ago, my birthday was coming up and, after going through a very stressful and painful time, I was determined to have a great gift. I like choosing my own presents from my husband since the opportunities and possibilities of the hunt is half the fun. We’d just moved from Los Angeles to Arizona with onlyRead more

How To Accelerate Your Healing Journey

How To Accelerate Your Healing Journey

by Christina Enevoldsen I felt incredibly insecure about my healing process in the beginning. Most other survivors I knew, the ones really serious about healing, had hired therapists. I couldn’t afford one. I couldn’t even afford a haircut. I wondered how much I could heal without guidance and support from a professional. Whatever progress I made, would it be consideredRead more

What To Do With the Pain From the Rejection of a Mother

What To Do With the Pain From the Rejection of a Mother

by Christina Enevoldsen I knew it wasn’t the wisest decision to meet with my mother after seven years of no contact. The time without her has been the happiest of my life—despite being sued by my parents, four months of being homeless, suffering a miscarriage, the death of my father, all while healing from the wounds of my childhood abuse.Read more