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Letting Go of Control to Have a Freaking Amazing Future

Letting Go of Control to Have a Freaking Amazing Future

by Christina Enevoldsen The new year is supposed to be something to look forward to—a fresh start, new possibilities—but I found myself feeling stress and dread. “I’m not ready.” “It’s coming too soon!” The countdown to 2018 was getting closer and closer and I felt unprepared for the effort it would require. I couldn’t show up in a way thatRead more

Rejecting Dysfunctional Family Rules

Rejecting Dysfunctional Family Rules

by Christina Enevoldsen Compliance to dysfunctional family rules was survival as a child but it was self-betrayal in adulthood. One of the most significant sources of pain and damage of my abuse comes from betrayal, especially from my parents. The man who was charged with the responsibility to protect and care for me violated my innocence and trust again andRead more

Removing the Shame From My Inner Child

Removing the Shame From My Inner Child

by Christina Enevoldsen When I was seven, I started classes in preparation for my First Communion. In the Catholic church, Communion is an expression of unity with Christ. Girls dress up like brides in white dresses and veils, symbolizing their purity. While planning for the day, I insisted to my mother that I couldn’t wear white. Normally, compliant and well-behaved,Read more

Do You Have a Self Care Plan as You Heal From Abuse?

Do You Have a Self Care Plan as You Heal From Abuse?

by Christina Enevoldsen Several years ago, my birthday was coming up and, after going through a very stressful and painful time, I was determined to have a great gift. I like choosing my own presents from my husband since the opportunities and possibilities of the hunt is half the fun. We’d just moved from Los Angeles to Arizona with onlyRead more