Posts Tagged ‘ dysfunctional family ’

I’m Re-gifting Christmas

Dec 24th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Family Rejection

by Christina Enevoldsen When I was thirteen, I wanted four children. The entire reason I wanted a family of that size was Christmas. I imagined that the perfect Christmas mandated a house full of family. My children would be dressed in matching outfits and my oldest child would play the piano as we gathered around […]



My Parents Are Dead (To Me)

Dec 12th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Family Rejection

by Christina Enevoldsen It would be easier to tell people my parents are dead. Orphans get sympathy; I get judgment. When I tell people that I don’t have any contact with my mother or father, it’s usually the same response: Oh, well, OH! Some of them move on to safer topics but a few of […]



What If My Family Rejects Me? Part 3

Nov 26th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Family Rejection

by Christina Enevoldsen & Darlene Ouimet Christina: The other day, I was felt unsettled about some things and, as usual, I poured out my heart to my husband. He’s a good listener, so as I processed my feelings I realized that part of the solution had me stumped and part of it I just didn’t […]



Unfriending My Abuser

Nov 21st, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Discovering I'm Empowered

by Patty Hite I remember quite a few years ago, I was watching Oprah while she was telling her story about her childhood sexual abuse. She had come back from visiting her family and stated how she sat at the same table with her abuser, talking to him over their meal. Her guest asked her […]



Deeper Than Skin Deep

Oct 23rd, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Steps Toward Healing

by Patty Hite I took my bulldog Molly to the vet because she was getting skin blisters all over her body. The vet and I have been omitting different things from her in order to see what is causing this. When she has a breakout, she gets a shot and then she’s put on pills […]



Writing: My Power Tool for Rebuilding After Abuse

Oct 14th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Steps Toward Healing

by Christina Enevoldsen For years, I didn’t realize how fragmented I felt and or how disjointed my life was. When I began to see the truth of my childhood sexual abuse, my world started to crumble. My personal history and the family I thought I had was an illusion; they only existed in my mind. […]



Is This Love That I’m Feeling?

Sep 2nd, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Sharing Hope

by Patty Hite My son used to sing a Bob Marley song to me all the time and the chorus was, “Is this love, is this love, is this love, is this love that I’m feeling?” I never gave it much thought until recently, but wondered why I never asked myself, “Is this love that […]



What If My Family Rejects Me? Part 1

Aug 22nd, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Family Rejection

by Christina Enevoldsen, Chris Kuhn & Ron Schulz Many survivors of childhood sexual abuse believe their family to be supportive and nurturing—until they talk about their abuse. They are surprised to be rejected, ignored, ostracized or even threatened with violence. Ron Schulz, Chris Kuhn and I (Christina Enevoldsen) discussed how we managed our feelings and […]



The Wolf in Shepherd’s Clothing: The “Benevolent” Abuser

Jul 26th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Discovering I'm Empowered

by Christina Enevoldsen In the dark children’s tale “Hansel and Gretal”, a young brother and sister are abandoned in the woods by their father at the insistence of their step-mother. She convinces her husband that the whole family will perish unless they reduce the number of bellies to feed. Lost and starving, the children find […]



My Story by Bethany

Oct 22nd, 2009 | By | Category: All Posts

My brother’s first memory was the adventure of crawling underneath the fence in our backyard to play with the neighbor’s dogs. I envy him. My first memory was of getting raped. I remember laying on the kitchen table with my open diaper covered in blood — an image that constantly repeats itself in my head. […]