Posts Tagged ‘ Christina Enevoldsen ’

I’m Re-gifting Christmas

Dec 24th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog

by Christina Enevoldsen When I was thirteen, I wanted four children. The entire reason I wanted a family of that size was Christmas. I imagined that the perfect Christmas mandated a house full of family. My children would be dressed in matching outfits and my oldest child would play the piano as we gathered around [...]



My Parents Are Dead (To Me)

Dec 12th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog

by Christina Enevoldsen It would be easier to tell people my parents are dead. Orphans get sympathy; I get judgment. When I tell people that I don’t have any contact with my mother or father, it’s usually the same response: Oh, well, OH! Some of them move on to safer topics but a few of [...]



What If My Family Rejects Me? Part 3

Nov 26th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Diablog--Multi-Person Blog

by Christina Enevoldsen & Darlene Ouimet Christina: The other day, I was felt unsettled about some things and, as usual, I poured out my heart to my husband. He’s a good listener, so as I processed my feelings I realized that part of the solution had me stumped and part of it I just didn’t [...]



What About Forgiveness?

Oct 28th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog

by Christina Enevoldsen I started talking about my childhood sexual abuse when I was in my early twenties. I only told a few people that it was my father who abused me, but there was a common response: “Have you forgiven him?” I was from in a religious environment where forgiveness was mandatory. I was [...]



Writing: My Power Tool for Rebuilding After Abuse

Oct 14th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog

by Christina Enevoldsen For years, I didn’t realize how fragmented I felt and or how disjointed my life was. When I began to see the truth of my childhood sexual abuse, my world started to crumble. My personal history and the family I thought I had was an illusion; they only existed in my mind. [...]



How Can I ‘Be Myself’ If I Don’t Know Who That Is?

Sep 30th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog

by Christina Enevoldsen “In every block of marble I see a statue as plain as though it stood before me, shaped and perfect in attitude and action.  I have only to hew away the rough walls that imprison the lovely apparition to reveal it to the other eyes as mine see it.” Michelangelo It’s completely [...]



Why Do I Need to Tell?

Sep 21st, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Diablog--Multi-Person Blog

by Christina Enevoldsen, Bethany Ruck, Patty Hite & Jennifer Stuck Christina: When I talk about my childhood sexual abuse, I see it as an opportunity to validate my inner child. As I reveal the horror of what happened to her, I’m inviting her out of the shadows of fear and shame.  She’s accustomed to other’s [...]



The Fear of Being Re-victimized

Sep 13th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Truth Talks--10 Minute Audio

by Christina Enevoldsen & Bethany Ruck Childhood sexual abuse often leaves the survivor vulnerable to more abuse and afraid of being victimized again. In this ten minute audio discussion, Christina Enevoldsen and Bethany Ruck share how they turn their violations in adulthood into tools for healing. “I had the belief that if I defended myself, [...]

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What If My Family Rejects Me? Part 2

Aug 30th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Diablog--Multi-Person Blog

by Christina Enevoldsen & Bethany Ruck My daughter, Bethany, and I were both sexually abused by our fathers and were strongly opposed by our family when we dared to seek justice for her abuse. We’re sharing how we came to terms with our grief and how we learned to meet our needs apart from our [...]



What If My Family Rejects Me? Part 1

Aug 22nd, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Diablog--Multi-Person Blog

by Christina Enevoldsen, Chris Kuhn & Ron Schulz Many survivors of childhood sexual abuse believe their family to be supportive and nurturing—until they talk about their abuse. They are surprised to be rejected, ignored, ostracized or even threatened with violence. Ron Schulz, Chris Kuhn and I (Christina Enevoldsen) discussed how we managed our feelings and [...]