As I sat there at the holiday table, I wondered if this was the price to pay for my freedom. I’d just left my abusive husband and my parents and children were celebrating with him.

A friend I didn’t know very well invited me to share the day with her. She’d invited another divorced friend and some newlyweds who couldn’t keep their eyes or hands off each other. Not awkward at all.

I don’t know if the room was dimly lit or if that’s just how I felt. It was really nice of my friend to include me but I couldn’t wait to get out of there.

All I’d known until then were holidays surrounded by family. Where my dad judged my weight and admonished me for protesting “playful” jabs from my husband. Where the holiday stress brought out another level of tension and the desperate need to cover it with a game of “Let’s Pretend We’re a Loving Family.” But I wasn’t always so good at smiling through that game and was picked on for it. Oh, the irony!

I didn’t want abuse but I didn’t want to be somewhere I definitely didn’t belong either. Was the only other option to be alone?

No!


My pressure to people please, my estrangement from my family, and my pain from abuse meant holidays used to leave me feeling more stressed than joyful. But step by step, I've addressed the 5 things that kept me there.

If you've survived childhood abuse, the holidays can be especially stressful and overwhelming. But it doesn't have to be that way. Good self care can provide you a holiday you actually enjoy.


Whether your holiday struggle is family issues or overcommitment, you deserve to consider your needs.



Self care isn't about being selfish.

As you learn to consider your needs and meet them, you'll actually have more energy to do the rest of your life better and with more love, which will give you more peace and more joy.



In these short (10-20 minute) audio lessons, you'll get quick but powerful ways to take away the pain, stress and exhaustion from your holiday season. You'll be empowered to start the new year refreshed.

Not only that, you can use these insights to create a more nurturing lifestyle for yourself throughout the whole year!


How would it feel to love and nurture yourself through the holiday season so you can start 2019 refreshed and inspired?

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As a survivor of incest, sex trafficking and a 21-year long abusive marriage (now remarried to an emotionally healthy, loving and supportive man), I bring personal experience, empathy, and insight as well as professional training to help childhood sexual abuse survivors thrive.

I’m a Strategic Interventionist and Certified Professional Life Coach with a specialty Life Story certification. I'm also the CoFounder of Overcoming Sexual Abuse and author of The Rescued Soul.

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