by Penny Smith Sometimes in the healing process it feels like I’m not making much progress. Then something will happen that helps me see just how far I’ve come. That was the case recently during a run-in with some abusive
"Her book explains confusing emotions in a clear and concise way that would normally take years of painful and slow therapeutic work to unravel. Her steps are like a brightly lit path out of darkness untangling confusing emotions while leading you quickly through to self discovery and healing."
"... savoring every bit of it as it reveals more and more of the feelings I've had for a long time...The questions at the end of the chapters help me to put into words the feelings I've never been able to share with anyone."
"This is an excellent book and workbook...Difficult concepts related to healing were clearly explained. The topics and questions are comprehensive and relevant...As someone who now works with others who have been abused I use this book to assist in their healing."
As a victim, I was indoctrinated in the rules of the abusive system. I accepted the abusive rules: A good girl doesn’t complain. A good girl doesn’t object. A good girl doesn’t tell. It was considered rebellious to think and act apart from my abusers. When I first 'rebelled' against the abusive rules, I felt guilty. My parents brought on more punishment in the form of rejection, which they called, 'discipline'. They believed it was their God-given right to have my obedience and their God-given right to do what they had to so I would submit. Today, I know I have not only the right to my own freedom, but the responsibility to maintain it. I won’t be following any rules that serve the abusive system anytime soon. ”