I am an author, blogger and incest survivor who offers hope, inspiration and practical insights for survivors of childhood sexual abuse so each one can live an empowered life apart from the effects of abuse.
As a victim, I was indoctrinated in the rules of the abusive system. I accepted the abusive rules: A good girl doesn’t complain. A good girl doesn’t object. A good girl doesn’t tell. It was considered rebellious to think and act apart from my abusers. When I first 'rebelled' against the abusive rules, I felt guilty. My parents brought on more punishment in the form of rejection, which they called, 'discipline'. They believed it was their God-given right to have my obedience and their God-given right to do what they had to so I would submit. Today, I know I have not only the right to my own freedom, but the responsibility to maintain it. I won’t be following any rules that serve the abusive system anytime soon. ”