I am an author, blogger and incest survivor who offers hope, inspiration and practical insights for survivors of childhood sexual abuse so each one can live an empowered life apart from the effects of abuse.
What I called, 'pity parties' were really an expression of being stuck in the contradictions of my belief system and emotions. I didn’t believe that I had the right to validate my pain or my experience but I felt the pain of it. I believed that I deserved to be mistreated but I felt angry about it. I didn’t believe that I had the right or the ability to change my circumstances or to stop the abuse but I felt desperate for relief. My self-pity was a result of my frustration over not having permission to feel compassion for myself. Pity never helped me out of my situation but having compassion for myself did. ”