by Bethany There I was, twenty-four years old and I’d never had a vaginal exam. I don’t like being touched in the first place, let alone being poked and prodded in my sacred areas. I had avoided the pap smear
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What I called, 'pity parties' were really an expression of being stuck in the contradictions of my belief system and emotions. I didn’t believe that I had the right to validate my pain or my experience but I felt the pain of it. I believed that I deserved to be mistreated but I felt angry about it. I didn’t believe that I had the right or the ability to change my circumstances or to stop the abuse but I felt desperate for relief. My self-pity was a result of my frustration over not having permission to feel compassion for myself. Pity never helped me out of my situation but having compassion for myself did. ”