I am an author, blogger and incest survivor who offers hope, inspiration and practical insights for survivors of childhood sexual abuse so each one can live an empowered life apart from the effects of abuse.
I used to feel heroic for sticking with abusive relationships. I believed that 'love conquers all', which to me meant that love gave me power. I thought I could make everything better through love. That worked well for my abusers; the worse they treated me, the better I treated them. 'Killing with kindness' is really victim mentality. My so-called love was really manipulation. Placating abusers never worked for me as a long-term solution. It perpetuated abusive patterns by validating them. That wasn’t love for myself or for my abusers. ”