Posts Tagged ‘ healing sexual abuse ’

Writing Is My Friend

Oct 12th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Steps Toward Healing

by Patty Hite Writing was easy for me. My mother encouraged me to write.  When I was a young child, I remember shopping with her, looking for perfect pieces of stationary. Money was tight so I cherished each piece.  I cut up used birthday and holiday cards to make my own books to write in. […]



If I Didn’t Write, I Would Have Died a Long Time Ago

Oct 6th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Steps Toward Healing

by Libbe HaLevy My abuse began when I was very young, pre-verbal. I repressed my earliest abuse in total amnesia, not even suspecting anything had happened. But from about age three, I became obsessed with words, language, meaning. Even before I knew how to put letters and words on paper, my imagination took situations around […]



How Can I ‘Be Myself’ If I Don’t Know Who That Is?

Sep 30th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Sharing Hope

by Christina Enevoldsen “In every block of marble I see a statue as plain as though it stood before me, shaped and perfect in attitude and action.  I have only to hew away the rough walls that imprison the lovely apparition to reveal it to the other eyes as mine see it.” Michelangelo It’s completely […]



Why Do I Need to Tell?

Sep 21st, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Steps Toward Healing

by Christina Enevoldsen, Bethany, Patty Hite & Jennifer Stuck Christina: When I talk about my childhood sexual abuse, I see it as an opportunity to validate my inner child. As I reveal the horror of what happened to her, I’m inviting her out of the shadows of fear and shame.  She’s accustomed to other’s dismissive […]



The Fear of Being Re-victimized

Sep 13th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Discovering I'm Empowered

by Christina Enevoldsen & Bethany Childhood sexual abuse often leaves the survivor vulnerable to more abuse and afraid of being victimized again. In this ten minute audio discussion, Christina Enevoldsen and Bethany share how they turn their violations in adulthood into tools for healing. “I had the belief that if I defended myself, I’ll get […]

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What If My Family Rejects Me? Part 2

Aug 30th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Family Rejection

by Christina Enevoldsen & Bethany My daughter, Bethany, and I were both sexually abused by our fathers and were strongly opposed by our family when we dared to seek justice for her abuse. We’re sharing how we came to terms with our grief and how we learned to meet our needs apart from our family. […]



What If My Family Rejects Me? Part 1

Aug 22nd, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Family Rejection

by Christina Enevoldsen, Chris Kuhn & Ron Schulz Many survivors of childhood sexual abuse believe their family to be supportive and nurturing—until they talk about their abuse. They are surprised to be rejected, ignored, ostracized or even threatened with violence. Ron Schulz, Chris Kuhn and I (Christina Enevoldsen) discussed how we managed our feelings and […]



How Do I Disclose My Abuse?

Aug 19th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Steps Toward Healing

by Christina Enevoldsen I talk about my childhood sexual abuse very publicly now, but I didn’t start there. The first time I ever told anyone I’d been abused it didn’t go very well. For years, I’d repressed most of my childhood memories when suddenly, in my early twenties, I knew I’d been abused. The knowledge […]



5 Dangers of Gratitude and a Positive Attitude

Aug 8th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Steps Toward Healing

by Christina Enevoldsen When I was a child, I was very well-behaved. I listened to my teachers and earned good grades. I got along well with other children and followed all the rules. I obeyed my parents and did helpful things around the house. I rarely got in trouble except for one thing: My parents […]



Getting Real: Can Our Survival Roles Help Us Find Our True Selves?

Jul 29th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Sharing Hope

By Christina Enevoldsen, Penny Smith & Bethany I live close to Beverly Hills, the plastic surgery Mecca, where the question is, “Are they real?” I’m also a few blocks from where the Academy Awards and many film premieres are held, where celebrities smile for the cameras and wave confidently to the fans, yet we know […]