I am an author, blogger and incest survivor who offers hope, inspiration and practical insights for survivors of childhood sexual abuse so each one can live an empowered life apart from the effects of abuse.
When people used to tell me things like, 'leave the past in the past,' it was their way of creating distance from me and my pain. I recognize that it was a coping method for them just like running from my own pain had been for me. I understand that when people say things like that, it’s out of their own issues and they most likely intend to be helpful, but it was still important to validate to myself the pain it created in me. I’d turned to them for comfort or support, but it triggered the same pain of abandonment that I’d felt from the original abuse. Even if they refused to sit with me in my pain, I needed to sit with me. ”