Posts Tagged ‘ dysfunctional family ’

My Fear of Being Alone

Jul 5th, 2011 | By | Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog

by Christina Enevoldsen I wrote a fictional story about a little girl being sexually abused by her father. It was for a project I was working on and I didn’t intend for it to be autobiographical, but when I came to the part where the child was lying in bed listening for her tormentor’s footsteps, […]



Grieving & Celebrating Father’s Day

Jun 17th, 2011 | By | Category: All Posts, Diablog--Multi-Person Blog

by Bethany, Christina Enevoldsen, Linda Pittman and Jennifer Stuck Bethany: Father’s Day feels so empty to me–like one of those holidays like Flag Day or Secretary’s Day. Why should I pay attention to those? I don’t have a flag, a secretary or a father. My dad is in prison for sexually abusing me for most […]



Forget About It!

Jun 4th, 2011 | By | Category: All Posts, Guest Blog

by Patty Hite Have you ever thought how ridiculous these three words are? “Forget About It!” I have been told to do this so many times over the years, especially about my abuse. I’ve spent so much time and energy trying to follow that suggestion and I have come to the conclusion that it is […]



Rebuilding My Boundaries After Abuse

Apr 16th, 2011 | By | Category: All Posts, Guest Blog

by Linda Pittman Throughout my healing journey from childhood sexual abuse, I have heard a lot about the need for “healthy boundaries”. How do I know if my boundaries are healthy? What are they and how do I measure mine? How do my boundaries compare with someone who has not been sexually abused? These were […]



The Myth of Unconditional Love

Apr 11th, 2011 | By | Category: All Posts, Guest Blog

by Jennifer Stuck I’ve been bombarded with the idea of unconditional love for as long as I can remember. Everywhere from home, to church, to Valentine’s Day commercials, people have pushed the concept that I should show love with no strings attached and expect nothing in return. People throw around phrases like “Blood is thicker […]



Dead Silence: Killing My Voice

Mar 21st, 2011 | By | Category: All Posts, Guest Blog

by Bethany I was ten years old when I blurted out my dark secret to my mom: I fantasized about dying tragically. Before I could finish detailing exactly how I wanted my body to be found, she interrupted me with, “Bethany, don’t ever say that again!” So I shut my mouth. I wanted to die […]



Confessions of a Child Molester’s Wife

Mar 12th, 2011 | By | Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog

by Christina Enevoldsen When my daughter was eight years old, she spent the night at a friend’s house. She and her friend spent hours swimming in their community pool and Bethany came home with her face, arms and legs red and burning. I was irate that the girl’s mother allowed Bethany to be exposed to […]



UNDERprotected

Feb 26th, 2011 | By | Category: All Posts, Guest Blog

by Bethany I had to cover my eyes during kissing scenes in movies until my teens. I couldn’t ride my bike more than two blocks away. All of my friends had to be approved. My mom would check all of my essays to make sure they were perfect before I even turned in a rough […]



Why Was I Abused?

Feb 1st, 2011 | By | Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog

by Christina Enevoldsen Just a note: Sometimes I believe things because they are true; other times I believe things because an alternate truth would be painful. One of the indications that I’m invested in a particular belief as a coping method is that I defend that “truth” as though my life is threatened. When I […]



A See No Evil, Hear No Evil, Speak No Evil Frame of Mind

Jan 3rd, 2011 | By | Category: All Posts, Guest Blog

by Patty Hite Living in a dysfunctional home, I was taught by example how to deny and ignore the things around me. No one spoke about the fights and arguments that went on and I learned to not speak about them too. My mom did everything to protect us kids from the many women my […]