by Bethany There I was, twenty-four years old and I’d never had a vaginal exam. I don’t like being touched in the first place, let alone being poked and prodded in my sacred areas. I had avoided the pap smear
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"... savoring every bit of it as it reveals more and more of the feelings I've had for a long time...The questions at the end of the chapters help me to put into words the feelings I've never been able to share with anyone."
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The message from abusers is that it’s not safe to tell; that’s the same message that survivors are given by others when we try to talk about our abuse: 'Talking about it will make you feel worse.' Or 'Why drag all of that up? It will just drag you down with it.' Talking about abuse didn’t make me feel worse; it helped me get better. Do you know what made me feel worse? Being told not to talk about it. ”