Posts Tagged ‘ denial ’

Dating After Sexual Abuse: Is This Love?

Nov 10th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Steps Toward Healing

by Bethany When my last boyfriend and I began dating, we would see each other once a week. The in between times were filled with hour-long telephone calls before bed, a lot of getting to know you time and even more of the sickening, “No, I miss you more” fluff.  One night the conversation led […]

Microwave Healing: I Want To Feel Better NOW

Nov 5th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Steps Toward Healing

by Patty Hite It’s time to face the facts. We live in a microwave world. We want it done and we want it done now. If I can’t put it in the microwave, I don’t want it. Every once in a while I will take the time to stir and mix my ingredients, throw it […]

Writing: My Power Tool for Rebuilding After Abuse

Oct 14th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Steps Toward Healing

by Christina Enevoldsen For years, I didn’t realize how fragmented I felt and or how disjointed my life was. When I began to see the truth of my childhood sexual abuse, my world started to crumble. My personal history and the family I thought I had was an illusion; they only existed in my mind. […]

Why Do I Need to Tell?

Sep 21st, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Steps Toward Healing

by Christina Enevoldsen, Bethany, Patty Hite & Jennifer Stuck Christina: When I talk about my childhood sexual abuse, I see it as an opportunity to validate my inner child. As I reveal the horror of what happened to her, I’m inviting her out of the shadows of fear and shame.  She’s accustomed to other’s dismissive […]

What If My Family Rejects Me? Part 1

Aug 22nd, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Family Rejection

by Christina Enevoldsen, Chris Kuhn & Ron Schulz Many survivors of childhood sexual abuse believe their family to be supportive and nurturing—until they talk about their abuse. They are surprised to be rejected, ignored, ostracized or even threatened with violence. Ron Schulz, Chris Kuhn and I (Christina Enevoldsen) discussed how we managed our feelings and […]

My Fight For Life Is Fueled By Hope

Aug 7th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Sharing Hope

by Patty Hite The dictionary states: Hope is a belief in a positive outcome related to events and circumstances in one’s life. I take this as meaning that I have to believe in a positive outcome. I have to believe in the healing methods in order to overcome the effects of my abuse. I have […]

Power Trip: How to Journey From Overpowered to Empowered

Jul 27th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Discovering I'm Empowered

by Christina Enevoldsen When I was a kid, The Wizard of OZ aired on television once a year. I didn’t know any families who didn’t anticipate this event. My family never missed it. We’d eat dinner early, make popcorn and enthusiastically settle in. The Wizard of Oz is an enchanting story of a twelve-year-old Kansas […]

Preparing to Heal from Sexual Abuse

Apr 19th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Steps Toward Healing

by Christina Enevoldsen Does time heals all wounds?  I’ve heard many survivors of abuse try to soothe themselves by saying, “Soon, this will pass.” It does take time to heal—and lots of it. But time alone won’t repair the soul mutilation of abuse anymore than it will repair the destruction caused by an earthquake. Sexual […]

Possible Indicators of Sexual Abuse

Feb 13th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Discovering I'm Empowered

Do you suspect you may have been the victim of sexual abuse? Sexual abuse is one of the most traumatic events a person can experience. Victims of traumatic events commonly repress the memory of the event. Memory repression is a coping mechanism that allows the person to survive mentally, emotionally and physically. Memories are usually […]