Posts Tagged ‘ denial ’

Dating After Sexual Abuse: Is This Love?

Nov 10th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Bethany's Blog

 by Bethany Ruck  When my last boyfriend and I began dating, we would see each other once a week. The in between times were filled with hour-long telephone calls before bed, a lot of getting to know you time and even more of the sickening, “No, I miss you more” fluff.  One night the conversation [...]



Microwave Healing: I Want To Feel Better NOW

Nov 5th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Patty's Blog

by Patty Hite It’s time to face the facts. We live in a microwave world. We want it done and we want it done now. If I can’t put it in the microwave, I don’t want it. Every once in a while I will take the time to stir and mix my ingredients, throw it [...]



Writing: My Power Tool for Rebuilding After Abuse

Oct 14th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog

by Christina Enevoldsen For years, I didn’t realize how fragmented I felt and or how disjointed my life was. When I began to see the truth of my childhood sexual abuse, my world started to crumble. My personal history and the family I thought I had was an illusion; they only existed in my mind. [...]



Why Do I Need to Tell?

Sep 21st, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Diablog--Multi-Person Blog

by Christina Enevoldsen, Bethany Ruck, Patty Hite & Jennifer Stuck Christina: When I talk about my childhood sexual abuse, I see it as an opportunity to validate my inner child. As I reveal the horror of what happened to her, I’m inviting her out of the shadows of fear and shame.  She’s accustomed to other’s [...]



What If My Family Rejects Me? Part 1

Aug 22nd, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Diablog--Multi-Person Blog

by Christina Enevoldsen, Chris Kuhn & Ron Schulz Many survivors of childhood sexual abuse believe their family to be supportive and nurturing—until they talk about their abuse. They are surprised to be rejected, ignored, ostracized or even threatened with violence. Ron Schulz, Chris Kuhn and I (Christina Enevoldsen) discussed how we managed our feelings and [...]



How Do I Disclose My Abuse?

Aug 19th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Articles

by Christina Enevoldsen I talk about my childhood sexual abuse very publicly now, but I didn’t start there. The first time I ever told anyone I’d been abused it didn’t go very well. For years, I’d repressed most of my childhood memories when suddenly, in my early twenties, I knew I’d been abused. The knowledge [...]



The Dangers of Gratitude and a Positive Attitude

Aug 8th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog

by Christina Enevoldsen When I was a child, I was very well-behaved. I listened to my teachers and earned good grades. I got along well with other kids and followed all the rules. I obeyed my parents and did helpful things around the house. I never got in trouble except for one thing: My parents [...]



My Fight For Life Is Fueled By Hope

Aug 7th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Patty's Blog

by Patty Hite The dictionary states: Hope is a belief in a positive outcome related to events and circumstances in one’s life. I take this as meaning that I have to believe in a positive outcome. I have to believe in the healing methods in order to overcome the effects of my abuse. I have [...]



Power Trip: How to Journey From Overpowered to Empowered

Jul 27th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog

by Christina Enevoldsen When I was a kid, The Wizard of OZ aired on television once a year. I didn’t know any families who didn’t anticipate this event. My family never missed it. We’d eat dinner early, make popcorn and enthusiastically settle in. The Wizard of Oz is an enchanting story of a twelve-year-old Kansas [...]



Power Play: How To Recognize An Abuser

Jul 25th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog

by Christina Enevoldsen It was the first time in weeks since my husband and I had been on a date. Don held my hand and I rested my head on his chest while we waited in line for the planetarium show at Griffith Observatory. The young couple a few feet in front of us caught [...]