by Christina Enevoldsen Several years ago, I had a friend whose husband wasn’t treating her right and she wavered between leaving him and staying. Some days, she’d had enough and other days, she wanted to give him another chance. I
"Her book explains confusing emotions in a clear and concise way that would normally take years of painful and slow therapeutic work to unravel. Her steps are like a brightly lit path out of darkness untangling confusing emotions while leading you quickly through to self discovery and healing."
"... savoring every bit of it as it reveals more and more of the feelings I've had for a long time...The questions at the end of the chapters help me to put into words the feelings I've never been able to share with anyone."
"This is an excellent book and workbook...Difficult concepts related to healing were clearly explained. The topics and questions are comprehensive and relevant...As someone who now works with others who have been abused I use this book to assist in their healing."
When people used to tell me things like, 'leave the past in the past,' it was their way of creating distance from me and my pain. I recognize that it was a coping method for them just like running from my own pain had been for me. I understand that when people say things like that, it’s out of their own issues and they most likely intend to be helpful, but it was still important to validate to myself the pain it created in me. I’d turned to them for comfort or support, but it triggered the same pain of abandonment that I’d felt from the original abuse. Even if they refused to sit with me in my pain, I needed to sit with me. ”