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Christina Enevoldsen ’
Dec 16th, 2012 |
By Christina Enevoldsen |
Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog
by Christina Enevoldsen My lifetime of abuse gave me the feeling of being the constant target of a nameless, faceless bully. Unable to conceal my terror or prevent whimpers from escaping, every sign of protest fed his lust for more suffering. He was never satisfied; the more he saw the pain he inflicted, the greater [...]
Tags: boundaries, Christina Enevoldsen, coping mechanisms, dysfunctional family, empowerment, let it go, letting it go, overcoming sexual abuse, significance, standing up for myself, validation Posted in All Posts, Christina's Blog |
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Nov 20th, 2012 |
By osa |
Category: All Posts, Articles
by Christina Enevoldsen with Bethany Ruck When I remember holidays with my family, I think of stress. The image that comes to mind is everyone else laughing and having a great time, while I was miserable. I don’t remember many holidays as a child, but as an adult, holidays used to be times of emotional [...]
Tags: abusive family, Bethany Ruck, boundaries, Christina Enevoldsen, dysfunctional family, empowerment, holiday depression, holiday pain, holiday triggers Posted in All Posts, Articles |
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Oct 7th, 2012 |
By Christina Enevoldsen |
Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog
by Christina Enevoldsen I didn’t actually plan to confront my dad. I didn’t think it would do me any good. This is what I wrote a few years ago: “My dad has displayed his selfishness for as long as I’ve known him. I’m not under some delusion that he’ll suddenly develop a conscience and confess [...]
Tags: abuser, boundaries, childhood sexual abuse, Christina Enevoldsen, confrontation, confronting my abuser, denial, dysfunctional family, empowerment, incest, validation Posted in All Posts, Christina's Blog |
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Sep 23rd, 2012 |
By Christina Enevoldsen |
Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog
by Christina Enevoldsen When I discovered that my husband was sexually abusing my daughter, I went to what I thought was the highest authority—our pastor. In our church, if something wasn’t Christian, it wasn’t to be trusted. Secular authorities like the police were inferior because they didn’t know God or his will. When my husband [...]
Tags: Christina Enevoldsen, coping mechanisms, cycle of abuse, dysfunctional family, empowerment, incest, overcoming sexual abuse, perpetuating abuse, personal power, victim, victim mentality, victim thinking Posted in All Posts, Christina's Blog |
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Aug 26th, 2012 |
By Christina Enevoldsen |
Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog
by Christina Enevoldsen Yesterday was my 46th birthday. Birthdays prompt me to reflect on my life—where I’ve come from and where I am now. Some of those thoughts included the woman who gave birth to me. My mother walked out of my life a few years ago and adamantly denies that my father sexually abused [...]
Tags: Christina Enevoldsen, denial, dysfunctional family, empowerment, family rejection, incest, it's not about you, mother's betrayal, mother's love, overcoming sexual abuse, truth, validation Posted in All Posts, Christina's Blog |
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Jul 8th, 2012 |
By Christina Enevoldsen |
Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog
by Christina Enevoldsen When I was ten, I wet my pants in school. We were taking a very long test and our instructions were to remain silent at our seats. No talking, no asking questions, no moving around. Since that ruled out raising my hand to ask to go to the bathroom, and I wasn’t [...]
Tags: abuser threatened me, bullies, Christina Enevoldsen, family rejection, father/daughter sexual abuse, incest, intimidation, parental abandonment, personal power, standing up to bullies, validation, victim Posted in All Posts, Christina's Blog |
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May 24th, 2012 |
By Christina Enevoldsen |
Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog
by Christina Enevoldsen When my daughter was nineteen and her father and I were in the middle of a divorce, she shared the horrible truth about what her dad had been doing to her for most of her life. As I tried to wrap my head around the fact that I had been completely blind [...]
Tags: afraid of telling, childhood sexual abuse, Christina Enevoldsen, denial, disclosing abuse, dysfunctional family, father daughter sexual abuse, healing sexual abuse, incest family, just tell, keeping secrets, Mary Schamer, overcoming sexual abuse, parenting Posted in All Posts, Christina's Blog |
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May 12th, 2012 |
By Christina Enevoldsen |
Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog
by Christina Enevoldsen When I used to talk about my childhood sexual abuse, I heard familiar accusations: “You just want attention” or “Nobody likes a crybaby.” As I poured out the same story again and again to my friends, I felt guilty for wasting their time. I believed that there was a rule that I [...]
Tags: abandonment, childhood sexual abuse, Christina Enevoldsen, denial, emotional pain, low self esteem, rejection, self-worth, truth, validation, victim Posted in All Posts, Christina's Blog |
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Apr 2nd, 2012 |
By Christina Enevoldsen |
Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog
by Christina Enevoldsen The sun was falling behind the trees, the wind was gusting and the child desperately sought refuge, though not from the elements. The same man who had hurt her before in ways she couldn’t understand was getting closer. The girl spotted movement in one of the houses. A woman was inside, cheerful [...]
Tags: abuser, Christina Enevoldsen, coping mechanisms, denial, empowerment, incest, peace, peace at any price, people pleasing, protection from abuse, rejection, self-protection, truth Posted in All Posts, Christina's Blog |
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Mar 20th, 2012 |
By osa |
Category: All Posts, Diablog--Multi-Person Blog
by Christina Enevoldsen & Bethany Ruck Bethany: A few months ago, I got word from a family member that my paternal grandmother was found unconscious in the middle of the night and rushed to the hospital. She had suffered a brain hemorrhage and was on a ventilator as her heart rate began to slow. The [...]
Tags: anger, Bethany Ruck, child abusers, childhood sexual abuse, Christina Enevoldsen, death of an abuser, dysfunctional family, emotional healing, incest, incest family, sexual abusers, sexual predators Posted in All Posts, Diablog--Multi-Person Blog |
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