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Domestic Violence: Why Did I Stay?

Sep 30th, 2012 | By | Category: All Posts, Patty's Blog

by Patty Hite Everything I did was for my husband.  Any ideas or suggestions on my part would end in Bill physically or emotionally abusing me.  I always felt my life depended on making a perfect meal.  When he didn’t like it, he would knock me out of my chair and force me to eat [...]



Why It’s Important to Heal My Own Way

Sep 15th, 2012 | By | Category: All Posts, Patty's Blog

by Patty Hite

When I started on my healing journey, I wanted someone to just give me the answers, show me the way and tell me what to do. I wanted to be taken care of because I didn’t have the confidence to take care of myself.

There wasn’t anyone to talk to or to show me how so I turned to books. There were only a few library books on abuse, and even fewer books about healing. Most of what I found were stories from survivors. In their stories, they wrote about what they did to heal.

Most of them went to therapists and I felt defeated because I couldn’t go to one. I came from a very small town and there were no therapists or counselors. Even if there had been, I wouldn’t have been able to afford it and I honestly don’t think I would have told anyone else…



Domestic Violence: The Signs I Missed

Dec 11th, 2011 | By | Category: All Posts, Patty's Blog

by Patty Hite The day we got married, Bill greeted me in our kitchen with a slap across the face that was so hard it knocked me to the floor. He grabbed my hair and dragged me into the bedroom where he raped me. Afterward, he told me that now I belonged to him and [...]



Life-Saving Anger

Jul 9th, 2011 | By | Category: All Posts, Patty's Blog

by Patty Hite Sometimes I feel like I am an advocate for anger. I don’t want others to think that I am an angry old woman, full of bitterness and mad at the world. That is not who I am.  But anger has been a life-saving force and I’m thankful for it. I spent half [...]



Forget About It!

Jun 4th, 2011 | By | Category: All Posts, Patty's Blog

by Patty Hite Have you ever thought how ridiculous these three words are? “Forget About It!” I have been told to do this so many times over the years, especially about my abuse. I’ve spent so much time and energy trying to follow that suggestion and I have come to the conclusion that it is [...]



Coping or Copping Out?

Feb 22nd, 2011 | By | Category: All Posts, Patty's Blog

by Patty Hite I recently moved from Florida to Ohio. My husband and I thought it would be a great move. I was raised in Ohio, so I was ready and willing to move back. He is ill and wanted me to be around my family. It was a hard move. The dream that it [...]



A See No Evil, Hear No Evil, Speak No Evil Frame of Mind

Jan 3rd, 2011 | By | Category: All Posts, Patty's Blog

by Patty Hite Living in a dysfunctional home, I was taught by example how to deny and ignore the things around me. No one spoke about the fights and arguments that went on and I learned to not speak about them too. My mom did everything to protect us kids from the many women my [...]



The Struggle To Remember

Dec 21st, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Patty's Blog

by Patty Hite Last night I received a phone call from the leasing agent in Ohio who told us that we’re approved to lease her house. As much as I love the beaches and sunny days of Florida, this just never felt like home. My husband made Florida home but I have always felt like [...]



Unfriending My Abuser

Nov 21st, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Patty's Blog

by Patty Hite I remember quite a few years ago, I was watching Oprah while she was telling her story about her childhood sexual abuse. She had come back from visiting her family and stated how she sat at the same table with her abuser, talking to him over their meal. Her guest asked her [...]



Microwave Healing: I Want To Feel Better NOW

Nov 5th, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Patty's Blog

by Patty Hite It’s time to face the facts. We live in a microwave world. We want it done and we want it done now. If I can’t put it in the microwave, I don’t want it. Every once in a while I will take the time to stir and mix my ingredients, throw it [...]