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Aug 8th, 2010 |
By Christina Enevoldsen |
Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog
by Christina Enevoldsen When I was a child, I was very well-behaved. I listened to my teachers and earned good grades. I got along well with other kids and followed all the rules. I obeyed my parents and did helpful things around the house. I never got in trouble except for one thing: My parents [...]
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Jul 27th, 2010 |
By Christina Enevoldsen |
Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog
by Christina Enevoldsen When I was a kid, The Wizard of OZ aired on television once a year. I didn’t know any families who didn’t anticipate this event. My family never missed it. We’d eat dinner early, make popcorn and enthusiastically settle in. The Wizard of Oz is an enchanting story of a twelve-year-old Kansas [...]
Tags: abusers, acceptance, anger, belief system, boundaries, child abuse, Christina Enevoldsen, control, coping mechanisms, denial, dyfunctional family, emotional healing, emotional scars, empowerment, false identity, family system, fulfilling life, healing journey, healing sexual abuse, healthy relationships, incest, inner struggle, intimidation, low self esteem, mental health, overcoming sexual abuse, parenting, people pleaser, personal development, personal power, personal responsibility, recovery, self help, self-worth, sexual abuse, sexual abuse recovery, survivor, truth, validation, victim, violation, Wizard of Oz Posted in All Posts, Christina's Blog |
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Jul 26th, 2010 |
By Christina Enevoldsen |
Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog
by Christina Enevoldsen In the dark children’s tale “Hansel and Gretal”, a young brother and sister are abandoned in the woods by their father at the insistence of their step-mother. She convinces her husband that the whole family will perish unless they reduce the number of bellies to feed. Lost and starving, the children find [...]
Tags: abandonment, abuser, abusive relationship, acceptance, belief system, belonging, betrayal, child abuse, Christina Enevoldsen, control, dependence, discernment, dysfunctional family, emotional healing, emotional pain, empowerment, expert, facade, false promises, father child relationship, feeling alone, feeling used, Hansel and Gretal, healing brokenness, healing journey, healing sexual abuse, hero, individuality, insecurities, low self esteem, manipulation, mental health, mother daughter relationship, mother's love, neglect, overcoming abuse, overcoming sexual abuse, pain relief, parenting, people pleaser, performance, personal growth, personal power, potential, sexual abuse recovery, significance, submission, trust issues, validation, victim, withholding love Posted in All Posts, Christina's Blog |
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Jul 25th, 2010 |
By Christina Enevoldsen |
Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog
by Christina Enevoldsen It was the first time in weeks since my husband and I had been on a date. Don held my hand and I rested my head on his chest while we waited in line for the planetarium show at Griffith Observatory. The young couple a few feet in front of us caught [...]
Tags: abuse, abusive marriage, abusive relationship, anger, boundaries, Christina Enevoldsen, competition, control, coping mechanisms, denial, discernment, domination, emotional pain, emotional scars, empowerment, equality, fear, healing brokenness, healing sexual abuse, healthy relationship, husband, intimidation, low self esteem, manipulation, mutual respect, overcoming abuser, overcoming sexual abuse, people pleaser, performance, personal power, personal safety, physical abuse, poor self esteem, power, recovery, self help, self-worth, sexual abuse recovery, shame, survival mode, survivor of abuse, teasing, trust issues, truth, validation, verbal abuse, victim, violation, vulnerable, wife Posted in All Posts, Christina's Blog |
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Jun 3rd, 2010 |
By Christina Enevoldsen |
Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog
by Christina Enevoldsen “Steve Austin, astronaut. A man barely alive. Gentlemen, we can rebuild him. We have the technology. We have the capability to build the world’s first bionic man. Steve Austin will be that man. Better than he was before. Better, stronger, faster.” Oscar Goldman in the opening narration to the “The Six Million [...]
Tags: child abuse, Christina Enevoldsen, emotional healing, emotional pain, emotional scars, empowerment, healilng from trauma, healing from abuse, healing journey, healing sexual abuse, incest, inner struggle, mental health, near death experience, overcoming abuse, overcoming sexual abuse, pain relief, personal development, personal growth, personal power, restoration, self help, self image, self improvement, self-worth, sexual abuse recovery, significance, suffering, survivor of abuse, therapy, validation, victim, violation Posted in All Posts, Christina's Blog |
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Apr 19th, 2010 |
By Christina Enevoldsen |
Category: All Posts, Articles
by Christina Enevoldsen Does time heals all wounds? I’ve heard many survivors of abuse try to soothe themselves by saying, “Soon, this will pass.” It does take time to heal—and lots of it. But time alone won’t repair the soul mutilation of abuse anymore than it will repair the destruction caused by an earthquake. Sexual [...]
Tags: abuse, Christina Enevoldsen, coping mechanisms, denial, emotional healing, emotional pain, empowerment, fear, healing journey, healing sexual abuse, healing trauma, incest, inner struggle, low self esteem, personal development, personal power, self help, sexual abuse, sexual abuse recovery, shame, significance, support, support group, survival mode, survivor, therapy, trust issues, validation, victim, violation, worry Posted in All Posts, Articles |
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Apr 7th, 2010 |
By Christina Enevoldsen |
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by Christina Enevoldsen If a friend or family member tells you he or she was sexually abused, please consider the importance of your role in the healing process. Disbelief or disinterest from loved ones can intensify or prolong trauma from abuse. It is emotionally overwhelming when someone you love and trust doesn’t believe you or [...]
Tags: abuser, acceptance, boundaries, child abuse, Christina Enevoldsen, comfort, comfort zone, disclosure, emotional outburst, emotional pain, emotional scars, emotions, empowerment, family, feeling alone, forgiveness, friends, healing brokenness, healing process, healing trauma, healthy relationships, incest, inner struggle, pain relief, personal space, recovery, secrets, self help, self-esteem, sexual abuse, shame, significance, support group, support system, survival mode, survivor of abuse, therapy, trust, truth, validation, victim, violation Posted in All Posts, Articles |
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Oct 22nd, 2009 |
By Christina Enevoldsen |
Category: All Posts, Our Stories
I feel like most of my life has been an effort to wake up from a nightmare. I had a desperate need to escape to the light of day, to free myself from the strange dreamworld of an alternate reality. I don’t remember thinking about sexual abuse until I was about fourteen or fifteen. I [...]
Tags: abuser, abusive marriage, betrayal, child abuse, Christina Enevoldsen, denial, dysfunctional family, emotional pain, emotional scars, empowerment, family system, father daughter relationship, fear, feeling alone, flashbacks, forgetting, healing brokenness, healing journey, healing trauma, incest, mental health, mother daughter relationship, nightmare, parents, personal growth, protitute, rape, recovery, repressed memories, self help, sexual abuse, shame, support, therapy, truth, verbal abuse, violation Posted in All Posts, Our Stories |
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Oct 20th, 2009 |
By Christina Enevoldsen |
Category: All Posts, Articles
by Christina Enevoldsen Sexual abuse is one of the most traumatic events that can happen to a child. The way their disclosure is handled can make a difference in whether the discloser is a continuation of their trauma or the first step in healing. Though it is difficult to believe that someone could hurt a [...]
Tags: abuser, anxiety, child abuse, child molester, child safety, Christina Enevoldsen, denial, disclosure, fear, healing, healing trauma, keeping secrets, parents parenting, recovery, reporting abuse, secrets, sexual abuse, support, therapy, trauma, traumatic event, trust, truth, victim, violation Posted in All Posts, Articles |
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