Comments on: Peace and Protection From Abuse http://overcomingsexualabuse.com/2012/04/02/peace-and-protection-from-abuse/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=peace-and-protection-from-abuse Embracing a New Life Sun, 19 May 2013 17:57:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5 By: Christina Enevoldsen http://overcomingsexualabuse.com/2012/04/02/peace-and-protection-from-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-5302 Christina Enevoldsen Thu, 27 Dec 2012 20:12:01 +0000 http://overcomingsexualabuse.com/?p=2673#comment-5302 Peggy,
I can understand being shocked about this. Honestly, I didn’t want to believe it either and worked most of my life trying to separate myself from it. This is definitely something that’s been going on for many generations in my family–on both sides. I’ve heard family stories, but didn’t understand their significance until I started facing the truth. I hate that it passed to my children, but Bethany and David are working to face their own issues so they are equipped to protect their children.

It’s great to hear from you. Thanks for your support!

Hugs,
Christina

]]> By: Peggy R. http://overcomingsexualabuse.com/2012/04/02/peace-and-protection-from-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-5298 Peggy R. Thu, 27 Dec 2012 17:05:43 +0000 http://overcomingsexualabuse.com/?p=2673#comment-5298 Christina –I don’t know how I have just come upon this information. Just searching the internet and all of a sudden, there you are.
You know that we were good “church” friends with your parents. I am in shock over this information.
But, truth be told, I have been in shock over much information that has come our way since leaving LWBC.
In reality, I cannot believe you have made this horrific stuff up. I see the generational curses fall down through each generation on many evils, including this one. The “trail” this sexual abuse has left is pretty good evidence.
I am glad you have “escaped the trap” and you and Don are hopefully living a good life in California.

]]> By: chel Gallagher http://overcomingsexualabuse.com/2012/04/02/peace-and-protection-from-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-4052 chel Gallagher Tue, 01 May 2012 23:07:31 +0000 http://overcomingsexualabuse.com/?p=2673#comment-4052 Hi, amazing turn of events two weeks a go when my aunt spills the beans of having a series of court visits, turns out a niece of my uncle in law is claiming he sexually abused her. My memories flew back creating an unwelcome burst of stress and anxiety. I tried to tell my aunt when I was 8/9 years old but she had him stand over me and by his side she cried ‘tell him what you told me’ I am now dealing with a divided family. I have to speak to a police officer on thurs to see if it’s time to face what occurred all those years ago. My family have always ignored my story. Now that he had been convicted and awaiting a trial it’s finally no longer my word against his .
I was just begining to love myself and to train myself to put me before everyone. I’m scared, I’ve already lost my family but it feels like I’m the one locking them out forever. I wish I had stood up to my uncle in law and stopped him, where am I going to get the strength to do it now? Wish me luck x

]]> By: Christina Enevoldsen http://overcomingsexualabuse.com/2012/04/02/peace-and-protection-from-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-4027 Christina Enevoldsen Wed, 25 Apr 2012 22:59:53 +0000 http://overcomingsexualabuse.com/?p=2673#comment-4027 Hi Toni,
Thanks for wanting to share this! Our copyright permissions allow others to share up to three paragraphs of any page on this site and must be accompanied by either the author of the post and Overcoming Sexual Abuse or the URL to the page it came from. Whole articles, blogs or pages cannot be reposted. Let me know if you have any questions.
Christina

]]> By: Christina Enevoldsen http://overcomingsexualabuse.com/2012/04/02/peace-and-protection-from-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-4026 Christina Enevoldsen Wed, 25 Apr 2012 22:55:14 +0000 http://overcomingsexualabuse.com/?p=2673#comment-4026 Wounded in the Past,
Thank you for sharing your story. Emotional blackmail and manipulation is just as damaging as violence. In my case, it made me think for a long time that it wasn’t as bad or that I could have said no or gotten away, which made me feel guilty. It’s a horrible thing to have your own emotions used against you.
Christina

]]> By: Christina Enevoldsen http://overcomingsexualabuse.com/2012/04/02/peace-and-protection-from-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-4025 Christina Enevoldsen Wed, 25 Apr 2012 22:49:27 +0000 http://overcomingsexualabuse.com/?p=2673#comment-4025 PS,
I love your question (and answer), “What exactly did I give up?” That’s exactly the conclusion I came to. Those people weren’t “family” to me the way family is supposed to be. I’d clung to an illusion. It took a lot of grieving to realize how much better off I was without the people who required me to earn the so-called love they dished out. Thanks for sharing!
Christina

]]> By: Christina Enevoldsen http://overcomingsexualabuse.com/2012/04/02/peace-and-protection-from-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-4024 Christina Enevoldsen Wed, 25 Apr 2012 22:44:25 +0000 http://overcomingsexualabuse.com/?p=2673#comment-4024 Clare, I hope things are starting to get better for you. Hugs to you!
Christina

]]> By: Christina Enevoldsen http://overcomingsexualabuse.com/2012/04/02/peace-and-protection-from-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-4023 Christina Enevoldsen Wed, 25 Apr 2012 22:42:18 +0000 http://overcomingsexualabuse.com/?p=2673#comment-4023 Vicki,
I agree that it can be very isolating to stand up and speak out the truth. There is definitely a cost. It hurt to realize that my family only tolerated me as long as I went along with things, but on the other hand, I’m glad to know the truth about where they stand. My life is so much better not surrounded by lie-lovers. It allowed more room for much healthier people and that’s so enriching to my life.
Christina

]]> By: Toni http://overcomingsexualabuse.com/2012/04/02/peace-and-protection-from-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-4022 Toni Wed, 25 Apr 2012 15:13:17 +0000 http://overcomingsexualabuse.com/?p=2673#comment-4022 I was wondering if I cold have permission to post this story on my web site.

Toni McKinley
Crowns of Hope Director

]]> By: tehniat http://overcomingsexualabuse.com/2012/04/02/peace-and-protection-from-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-4018 tehniat Tue, 24 Apr 2012 07:01:58 +0000 http://overcomingsexualabuse.com/?p=2673#comment-4018 same as my story.!

I love this part in particular ” When abusers go unchallenged, when victims go unheard, there is no peace “

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