Comments on: Forget About It!

By: Shen

Shen — Mon, 06 May 2013 15:57:55 +0000

Remembering helps us set proper boundaries and keeps us safe in the present. Even so, it’s important to reach a place where we can distinguish between the memory and the actual event. It isn’t happening now, and as adults we have to power to keep it from ever happening again, but when we have fully processed the past, we can know that in this moment we are safe and whole and the pain lessens. And lessens. And lessens.

By: Patty Hite

Patty Hite — Mon, 06 May 2013 14:46:24 +0000

Emma,

I believe we all try to forget because we have been programmed by others to move on. I believe in moving on, but moving on in a healthy way could only be achieved by remembering my abuse and learning how to overcome it. To feel empowered instead of victimized seems to be the best solution for me. Life can be good and we all deserve it!! Patty

By: Emma

Emma — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 01:01:05 +0000

I came across this believe it or not by tying into googel “how to forget memories of childhood sexual abuse”. Thank you for writing this, I spend so much time trying to forget and your words sound like something I myself have/would write. I want to forget so badly. And while I don’t think that want is going to go away straight away reading your story has helped me in some ways see my efforts to forget aren’t really getting me anywhere but only causing me more pain. Thank you again for sharing this.

By: Patty Hite

Patty Hite — Fri, 15 Feb 2013 00:54:41 +0000

Natasha,

You can contact me on Facebook. I am not a professional but am more than willing to share my experiences to help you any way I can. Patty

By: Natasha

Natasha — Thu, 24 Jan 2013 12:22:29 +0000

Dear Patty
I would like to send my internal gratitude to you for sharing your vulnerabities so honestly and publicly, it is extremely corageous and admirable.

I can really relate to all aspects of your story and particulary the fact that you became memory poor.

I have acquired this, and though it was attributable to the amount of marijuana I was smoking in order to numb my pain. I now know this is no longer the case as I had stopped smoking over 5 years ago.

I knew about my abuse, but it is very hazy, as I am aware of the tramatic effects this has had on my daily life.

Having been on your journey for quite some time, I wonder if you could possibly help me with my own personal growth by answering me some questions please.

Kind Regards
Natasha

By: Patty Hite

Patty Hite — Thu, 15 Nov 2012 14:36:36 +0000

Marie,

Thank you! And He does.

By: Patty Hite

Patty Hite — Thu, 15 Nov 2012 14:36:06 +0000

Irene,

I agree!! It is rediculous. ((hug)) Patty

By: Marie

Marie — Thu, 15 Nov 2012 02:36:01 +0000

God Bless you!

Maria Ortiz

By: irene bouchard

irene bouchard — Wed, 29 Aug 2012 17:12:51 +0000

If it were this easy to forget, wouldn’t we do it.. How rediculous. I’ve heard Oh the past is the past, just get on with your life. I read somewhere that is like putting a bandaid on a large tumor. It has to be cut out. It is no wonder we get angry. We have to go through so much pain again
and it was never our fault. Ugh..
Irene

By: Patty Hite

Patty Hite — Wed, 21 Dec 2011 13:14:11 +0000

Sharon,

Thank you for sharing. I think most of us have been taught wrong concerning the forgive and forget theory. I’m so glad you were able to find the truth. I love the truth. And I especially love the way you stated it: ” I believe that as hard as is it to forgive, it gives me the freedom to accept my experience and move forward without carrying any bitterness. In being able to do this also releives me of feeling the victim and therefore empowers, as those whom have done me wrong have no wrongfull power over me anymore.”

Thank you, Patty