Comments on: Seeds of Hope For Healing

By: Linda Pittman

Linda Pittman — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 16:10:53 +0000

Vera, glad you are here! There is a wealth of support and help here at OSA. Welcome to our garden club! You are starting your journey in healing and each step has a purpose, even your rage. You will find that inside you is a good person and the rage you feel is the young child’s reaction to the horrible experience’s you were subjected to. That was a perfectly natural reaction, except that we had to learn to supress it in our helplessness. You are no longer helpless and the hope of healing is a real and tangible goal! Anger is not all bad, it is a signal that we have had our boundaries breeched and can be used to protect ourselves as well.

By: Bethany Ruck

Bethany Ruck — Fri, 28 Oct 2011 04:09:03 +0000

Vera, welcome to OSA. We are glad to have you!

By: Vera

Vera — Thu, 27 Oct 2011 20:21:24 +0000

Hi,
I’m new to this website and a little shy. Hopefully I will be able to share
My story one day. I have had a very difficult few weeks trying
To process what happened to me as a teenager and child.
The rage overcomes me at times and scares me so.
Thank you for allowing me to express. God bless.
Vera

By: Linda Pittman

Linda Pittman — Mon, 19 Sep 2011 02:41:54 +0000

Roshani,
I am so glad that you feel safe on OSA. There are many people who understand and want to help and support each other in their healing here. i am so glad you us! You are welcome!
Hugs,
Linda

By: Roshani

Roshani — Sat, 17 Sep 2011 11:17:43 +0000

Thanks to all of you so much…..also for me this PLACE has been my first experience to make public my story of INCEST….and with mine surprise I FEEL SAVE between all OF US!!!!It is incredible to hear how many we are in the world ….before each one ISOLATED in their own PAIN and DESPERATION ….but now togheter maybe it will be a little more easy!!! Thanks to exsist to all of you and us!!! love and light!! Roshani

By: Linda Pittman

Linda Pittman — Thu, 08 Sep 2011 16:59:16 +0000

Lady, welcome to the gardening club! I am glad you are here and that you feel supported and cared for. Keep working on uncovering the fears and lies that can keep you stuck. Learning about boundaries will help you in working on trust in your life. There is a wonderful life waiting for you to pull the ribbon and unwrap!

By: lady

lady — Tue, 06 Sep 2011 21:05:19 +0000

The comment that we are like gardeners is so beautifully said; in a way, all human beings are. We are planting seeds, some good, inspiring, seeds that others can use and build on, others (like the purpetrators) unfortunatly bad seeds that create damage and darkness over the field.
As someone being sexually abused and physically assulted, I have in my few years on earth already had my share of mistrust towards the world, towards men, and also, my share of therapy for it.
What amazes me though, is the strong support that is here, on these sites and that helps me stay actively involved with my healing proces at home, for I am not yet in a place where I can trust the people around me with my story or feel that I can explane to them that certain aspects of my character are shaped this way, because of the things that have happened to me. But here, I feel comfortable enough to want to garden and plant seeds too, and hopefully, one day I will have reached a certain level of happiness and a feeling of safety and trust! I thank you!

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By: Linda Pittman

Linda Pittman — Wed, 30 Mar 2011 23:09:16 +0000

Vicki, other relationships do not have to take the place of family but rather to enrich our lives.We can survive and enjoy life without our family if necessary. having family for the sake of having someone to call family when they treat you badly is toxic for us. It makes us angry inside because we have expectations that are never met. If someone can’t show love to us it is because they either don’t care or they don’t know how. if they don’t know how and we are valuable to them, then they will be motivated to learn how. It is not our place to teach others how to love us but it is our place to teach others to respect us and to love ourselves. Not having a model for loving others is not necessary for us to want to learn to love and to do that. We can hang with people who demonstrate genuine love to learn from. The desire to change has to be there. Good friends are honest with us even when it is something we would rather not hear. People who insult us and step over our boundaries are abusers. It is up to us to hold those boundaries and to detach from abusive people. We can’t will ot teach others to love us, they either do or they don’t. Anything less is a one-sided relationship that will never fill our needs. A mistake is something that is not deliberate. Anything deliberate that hurts us is abusive. I am sorry that you lost your daughter’s Dad. If you have that hope begin to act on it for yourself. You have a lot that has happened to you that was not fair. If those things happened to me I would be angry and resentful. But anger can motivate me to seek change and to do what I can for myself. how is your book study coming along? I hope you are getting alot out of it. Have you ever tried to see if there aree groups that meet in your area? I think it would help you alot.

By: Vicki

Vicki — Wed, 30 Mar 2011 16:39:06 +0000

I just can’t resist putting a quote on here about hope. My daughter’s dad always used to say “As long as there’s life, there’s hope.”
I didn’t appreciate the true meaning of that phrase until after he was killed. Then I understood that, even if you think your life is going nowhere, you still have hope.
You’d have to actually experience losing a person to violent death before the statement about hope would take on such a meaning.
Or I had to.