Comments on: Dead Silence: Killing My Voice

By: Child-on-Child Sexual Abuse: It’s No Game - Overcoming Sexual Abuse

Child-on-Child Sexual Abuse: It’s No Game - Overcoming Sexual Abuse — Sun, 27 Nov 2011 06:48:49 +0000

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By: Bethany Ruck

Bethany Ruck — Thu, 28 Jul 2011 15:17:32 +0000

Marisa, cheers to that!

By: Bethany Ruck

Bethany Ruck — Thu, 28 Jul 2011 15:16:54 +0000

Cassandra, that’s so true. Many times we associate others with abusers when they merely have similar traits. It can be hard to tell the difference between and abuser and someone who is a man for example when it may have been a man who abused us. My abuser was a man, but not all men are abusers.

By: Cassandra

Cassandra — Sat, 16 Jul 2011 04:54:54 +0000

Another challenge, in addition to not allowing the abuse and abuser to define me, is becoming aware of how I identify other people with the abuser, a male. I have a hard time trusting men. In reality, some of them can actually be trusted.

By: Marisa

Marisa — Fri, 15 Jul 2011 10:46:20 +0000

Here’s to finding your voice and being one of the brave ones who overcame the adversity of childhood to thriveas an adult. We survivors don’t take our new lives for granted!

By: Bethany Ruck

Bethany Ruck — Thu, 23 Jun 2011 21:30:31 +0000

Shannon, Shanyn, Charlie, & Lizzie: I’m so glad this helped you.

Patricia: You’re right. We all come from such different pasts, but it’s amazing how similar the effects are.

By: Lizzie

Lizzie — Tue, 14 Jun 2011 19:26:01 +0000

This makes alot of sense to me, you have explained it so well. I never understood why I had those thoughts until now. Thank you.

By: Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker

Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker — Tue, 14 Jun 2011 19:25:39 +0000

Charlie, there was nothing wrong with you as a child. Those people who abused you with their words were definitely lacking in compassion and were the ones who were damaged in their thinking. I love that we can all be from different backgrounds here and still can relate to each others’ pain in ways that open us up to healing. You were always a beautiful child. All children are beautiful. Those people had no right to abuse you in that way.

By: Charlie Storm

Charlie Storm — Tue, 14 Jun 2011 13:59:17 +0000

As I child my mum was often told I was a child only a mother can love. I remember contemplating suicide, and praying for an awful disease like cancer or aids so that members of my family might realise how much i mean to them and actually love me. My mum knew about all the sexual abuse but punished me for letting people touch me in the wrong place. It didn’t really affect me as it was the norm for me until 5 years ago when I became SO angry. I would hit my head on a wall, punch walls and break bones. Realising that I was only hurting myself, I started bottling my anger but that jsut resulted in severe depression and so I started attempting suicide. I knew what I was doing wasn’t good so I started therapy. Your posts help me view things from a different prospective and I find them soothing.

By: Shanyn

Shanyn — Wed, 08 Jun 2011 15:13:11 +0000

Bethany, I used to try and leave parts of my self behind so someone would know I existed, I so desperately wanted to not be just a piece of my family, of their cover up and abuse. Thank you for sharing and posting and I am so encouraged by your voice! Bright blessings…Shanyn, the Scarred Seeker