Comments on: Paper Is My Safest Friend

By: Jennifer Lynne Stuck

Jennifer Lynne Stuck — Sun, 03 Apr 2011 23:24:50 +0000

Vicki you can post your poems in the discussion board any time. I would love to read them. I think its fine if they don’t have a happy ending. Abuse is a terrible thing and you don’t have to sugar coat it. If you ever WANT to write a happy ending I would love to hear that to, but it isn’t needed.

By: Vicki

Vicki — Sun, 13 Feb 2011 22:05:07 +0000

Unfortunately, I don’t understand what a Submissions tab is, or at least I couldn’t find it when I did a full search of the site by titles.
They used to call me User Error when I worked at Microsoft’s Help Desk (answering phones and giving the questions to qualified computer techs.) They were right as far as internet is concerned. I taught to myself and don’t even remember what a tab is. But I searched every title and couldn’t find one that said submissions.
I have very few poems about the pain. I keep trying to write a positive outcome, b/c that’s what everyone has always told me to focus on.
They’ve been so rabid about forcing the idea into me that, when I even try to write something negative, I feel like I’m being the world’s most horrendous person.

By: Jennifer Stuck

Jennifer Stuck — Wed, 09 Feb 2011 07:19:23 +0000

Luise & Mindy – I started telling people I was abused in no detail about 10 years before I was ready to really talk about it. The first bit of opening up I did was like planting a seed, and I had to wait until all the conditions were right before it grew. Healing is a process and we are all at different stages, The great part is that you are starting the journey tp getting better and you know there is hope.

By: Christina Enevoldsen

Christina Enevoldsen — Wed, 09 Feb 2011 05:47:40 +0000

Vicki,
We have a submissions tab for those who would like to submit blogs. We have certain requirements, but very little of it has to do with writing skills. You can find the info in that section. Let me know if you have any questions.
Christina

By: Vicki

Vicki — Thu, 03 Feb 2011 18:30:27 +0000

I have a question that I hope isn’t going to sound off-kilter, but why do some people get to write a whole blog while others only get to write in the Response section?
I’m only asking, b/c I took professional writing courses, in both poetry and short story writing, which means I like writing. Before I took the courses though, I’d already written reams of poems and a few short stories.
My editor, who was a man, didn’t like my accounts of abuse though-didn’t believe them is a better description-so he told me it was “inappropriate” to write about sexual abuse.
I told him to tell Stephen King that, in Gerald’s Game he writes 300 flippin’ PAGES about the same type of abuse I was trying to write about, and the conversation degenerated from there into hostile feelings. Then I stopped writing about all of it, and haven’t written a thing since that event occurred.

By: Mindy

Mindy — Thu, 20 Jan 2011 07:16:49 +0000

Wow Louise! You just wrote what I probably never would have thought of writing! You put words to exactly what I feel. I can also relate to what Chalet said. For me, it’s always been, “I was sexually abused.” and that was it. It never went any further than that. sorry, I don’t know what else to say here.

By: Louise

Louise — Thu, 13 Jan 2011 12:48:28 +0000

‘SOMETHING that needs to come out—some emotion that has been long trapped inside of me that is finally ready to surface. I can feel a voice deep down inside of me screaming, begging to be heard. When I write I provide a platform for that voice (my inner child) to speak out, to say all the things she was never allowed to say while being abused’
I’m having a difficult time allowing this without judging. I can hear all these angry voices and they’re in me. So the details that I am remembering aren’t coming out, just surfacing in my mind. I want to write/tell them. I’ve been able to say ‘this happened and that happened’ in regards to the events of my life. But everything before I was 9 is all metaphor still -’thunder crashing’ like you say. I can’t seem to say, well I can’t seem to say what it is I’ve remembered. I don’t want to, I don’t understand and I don’t like it

By: Fi MacLeod exNicholson

Fi MacLeod exNicholson — Tue, 19 Oct 2010 19:32:08 +0000

Oops I just noticed the typo on my above comment – * WRITING IS SUCH A HELPFUL TOOL*

By: Fi MacLeod exNicholson

Fi MacLeod exNicholson — Mon, 18 Oct 2010 00:03:44 +0000

Writing is what’s kept me alive and is a huge outlet for me to express my thought processes, pain, anger, helplessness etc. It gets stuff out of my system safely. Without being able to write and be creative I’d be really stuck and I probably wouldn’t still be alive. It is such a blessing to be able to write, whether it’s poems or anything really. Now I have my blog sites they give me an even greater outlet. I find so much strength and encouragement from writing and sharing honestly with myself and with others. Writing is should a helpful tool.

By: Chalet

Chalet — Sun, 17 Oct 2010 22:46:23 +0000

Jennifer, I just want to say thank you. I want to say more and somehow have it express all the emotion I felt when I read this I’m not sure that’s possible. My inner child is screaming and I keep shutting her down. I let little bits and pieces escape here and there but its never quite enough. Sometimes I suppose the road to healing is just to know that there isn’t one way to be free. I don’t know that writing is truly the best thing for me. Something is though and I hope to find it. I know that reading your words made me smile. Thanks for sharing. Your awesome.