Comments on: Writing Is My Friend

By: Patty Hite

Patty Hite — Thu, 10 Nov 2011 12:24:21 +0000

Martha,

I’m so glad that hope is still stirring in you. I know it’s hard, and sometimes, it’s harder than other times, but hope is what keeps me going. Writing has helped me, still helps me, get thru loneliness and isolation at times. At least when I write, I know that the most important person is paying attention, and that is me.

For some reason, writing helps me to put things in perspective and when I read what I write, the light bulb goes off inside of me at times. Hope it does the same for you.

Thank you for your encouragement!! Patty

By: Martha

Martha — Mon, 31 Oct 2011 23:41:05 +0000

thnx alot Patty , You helped me alot with this note, really That encouraged me to keep moving in my healing journey after losing most of hope . just these days I felt alone and my friends who gave me strength seem to be away from me and I am in my second difficult stage of overcoming sexual abuse , just yesterday discovered and felt how that how this awful experience isolate me from the world , lose me alot of things I had …….. feeling like I am not an ordinary person after it especially in feelings I cannot feel a thing that I am not ready to feel !!!!. and when I saw your article title “writing is my friend” ……. I said “Me too”
can find anew friend in writing like Pretty supporting me through me healing journey . thnx again Pretty.
and really You are good funny writer ……. laughed when I read that you wrote a book about”why chair called chair ?”

By: Patty Hite

Patty Hite — Fri, 15 Oct 2010 11:26:06 +0000

Lisa,
I’m so glad you are encouraged to continue writing. It has been so beneficial to me and I know that once you start doing it again, that you will feel the same way. It was always so much easier for me to write about my emotions than to speak about them. I can do it now, but I believe it was because I wrote it out so many times that now it seems natural to me to talk about it. Thanks for sharing and happy writing.

Patty

By: Patty Hite

Patty Hite — Fri, 15 Oct 2010 11:21:21 +0000

Jennifer,

Isn’t that the truth? I like what you said about we just start writing and we never know where it is going to take me. That is how I feel. And now with a laptop sitting on my lap, look out. My desktop is full of writings. A jot here and a dab there and some are full of things that I just ponder about and some are complete writings. There are times I have to ignore my laptop because my fingers will just take off.

Love ya, Patty

By: Lisa

Lisa — Thu, 14 Oct 2010 15:21:12 +0000

Great post. Thanks. I love to write and make lists… but have managed to avoid writing the emotions of the abuse to my child or to my own childhood. Even with my wasband… wrote mostly facts, but when I did write the emotions like a letter, it waas such a release. I know it is time to write some of those letters to family regarding my childs abuse first, then maybe my own when I am able to see it.

Thanks again for the encouragement to get back to it. I will try the free-writing with myself and my child when we take our first family retreat at the end of the month with some of the victims benefit fund received!

By: Jennifer Stuck

Jennifer Stuck — Thu, 14 Oct 2010 05:58:44 +0000

Patty you described the very thing that every great writer does when writing a masterpiece. They sit down and write everything in their head without filtering it to make it “pretty”. Trying to write something we expect others to see can inhibit our writing process. If we just put pen to paper and let the thoughts flow out of us we never know what we will find. This has been a great way for me to get to know myself better. I start writing and never know where it’s going to take me. I just start scribbling and go along for the ride.

By: Patty Hite

Patty Hite — Wed, 13 Oct 2010 21:48:42 +0000

Libbe, thank you. It’s so wonderful to know that others, especially Survivors, understand how important it is to write and what a release it can be. Glad your back on the computer.

Patty

By: Libbe

Libbe — Wed, 13 Oct 2010 21:22:30 +0000

Lovely post, Patty. I couldn’t agree with you more about writing being a friend, a good, loyal, trustworthy friend to all survivors. And I recognize the ripping of the paper while writing; it’s a good sign of rage released. Thanks for your honesty and your words! — Libbe.

By: Patty Hite

Patty Hite — Wed, 13 Oct 2010 21:12:14 +0000

Gordon,

What a wonderful friend you have. I am so glad that you were able to write and see the benefits of it. It has been a life saver for me and still is. And thank you for your encouragement.

Patty

By: Gordon DeLand

Gordon DeLand — Wed, 13 Oct 2010 19:15:25 +0000

Patty,
I couldn’t agree more about the friend that writing is. When I was first encouraged to write out my story, I was so ashamed I couldn’t believe I was that bad. I was afraid to show it to the kind and very forgiving friend that urged me to write it out. I was completely convinced he would email me back and demand i NEVER contact him again. What a joy to read his rely… “Is that all?”, and not said in a belittling way at all. He took my self-condemnation seriously, and answered it exactly like I needed. That wasn’t “all” of course, but it was enough for me to see that I was not ‘unacceptable’ … finally!
Thank you for your courage to write, for us.