Comments on: Power Trip: How to Journey From Overpowered to Empowered

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By: Christina Enevoldsen

Christina Enevoldsen — Tue, 07 Jun 2011 14:41:58 +0000

Cassandra,
“How to stay motivated” is a good topic. When I started this process, I was running from pain more than I was acting out of self-care. My motivation changes from day to day. Sometimes I’m still driven away from the pain of the past and now that I see such excellent results from all the healing work I’ve done, hope keeps me moving forward. I certainly didn’t love myself when I started but I do now and I’m learning to do this as part of taking care of myself. That came as a result of all the other steps. So it’s all tied together and not just one thing keeps me going. I still have moments when I break down and cry when I look at all the work there is to do, but that doesn’t happen very often. Most of the time, I’m excited about what’s coming up next.
Christina

By: Cassandra

Cassandra — Tue, 07 Jun 2011 04:32:54 +0000

I hope one of you will write about how you motivate yourself. I am only partially on my own side. I feel a substantial amount of worthlessness. I am taking steps toward recovery (which feels like pushing a boulder uphill) but sometimes I feel like I don’t care enough about myself.
It would be helpful to read how another survivor got completely supportive of their own self, or how they remotivate themselves when they falter.

By: Christina Enevoldsen

Christina Enevoldsen — Mon, 09 Aug 2010 15:46:04 +0000

Ron,
I really like this,
“Robert Anton Williams states: Inside of us lives both a thinker and a prover; “What the thinker thinks, the prover proves”. Fascinating how that little phrase characterizes the dynamic of both the victim mentality and the survivor/thriver mentality. Once we flip the switch from glass half-empty (victim) to glass half-full mentality (survivor), then as you say, we can then gain the potential to move onto the next phase for designing the substance that we’ll use for filling up the glass to full and overflowing (thrivor) mentality.”

It’s true that we find what we’re looking for whether it’s powerlessness or empowerment. I think my ‘switch was flipped’ over a period of time. I’d ‘get it’ and think “Now I really get it” and then after some time I’d think “Now I REALLY get it.” Now I think, ‘NOW I REALLY, REALLY get it!”. lol. I can’t wait to see how my understanding will increase next.

By: Ron

Ron — Mon, 09 Aug 2010 12:49:00 +0000

Brilliant post Christina. This message is an especially timely reminder for me because of the recent and seemingly on-going major shifts and moves that I have made in my life over the last three years. And it always seems to be in life’s ‘cracks’ where I discover the self defeating beliefs that tend to drive my life subconsciously from the shadows.
It’s then that I discover all of the ‘things’ I use, and give away my power to, in order to achieve and maintain a measure of comfortablilty and balance in the rough transitional spots. You mentioned two of my favorites and they are both would be remedies for particular ingestive maladies that I had used during my life in order to keep myself ‘in line’ ie, powerless.
Robert Anton Williams states: Inside of us lives both a thinker and a prover; “What the thinker thinks, the prover proves”. Fascinating how that little phrase characterizes the dynamic of both the victim mentality and the survivor/thriver mentality. Once we flip the switch from glass half-empty (victim) to glass half-full mentality (survivor), then as you say, we can then gain the potential to move onto the next phase for designing the substance that we’ll use for filling up the glass to full and overflowing (thrivor) mentality.

By: Christina Enevoldsen

Christina Enevoldsen — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 03:16:02 +0000

Pamela, that’s one of the issues that we have to face is trying to control everything else outside of us. A lot of us have a compulsive need to control our environment since we couldn’t control anything as children. Yet it’s a losing battle and keeps us preoccupied on things outside of us instead of on internal issues that we can control. I agree–everyday is getting better and better!

Thanks, Rebekah! I’ve used a lot of movies to work out my issues. It’s so much easier recognizing issues in other people (or fictional characters) than in myself. lol

By: Rebekah Encke

Rebekah Encke — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 03:15:41 +0000

Wow Christina, this was great!!! I loved the symbolism of the Wizard of Oz…it was perfect and something we all can relate to. Thank you so much!!!

By: Pamela Abraham

Pamela Abraham — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 03:15:24 +0000

nicely written, I love the Wizard of Oz analogy…as a child I was powerless and today I am powerless over people places and things, I have only one thing I can control and that it me, my thoughts feelings and behaviors. God is good, and everyday is getting better and better.

By: Christina Enevoldsen

Christina Enevoldsen — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 03:15:04 +0000

Thanks, Jennifer! Yes, I’ve been adorable for quite some time now. lol.
It’s funny because I don’t know what to call it, either. It’s kind of a bloggy article thing.

Melissa, that’s so wonderful! Congratulations on such a big step! I’m proud of you too.

By: Melissa Dawn Shepherd

Melissa Dawn Shepherd — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 03:14:40 +0000

Christina I am proud of myself, I have cut all ties with my biological father who molested me. The hatred is still there for him and my mother who has been dead 10 years now