Six Million Dollar Healing: Completely Invested in the Process

Jun 3rd, 2010 | By | Category: All Posts, Christina's Blog

Christina Enevoldsen

by Christina Enevoldsen

“Steve Austin, astronaut. A man barely alive. Gentlemen, we can rebuild him. We have the technology. We have the capability to build the world’s first bionic man. Steve Austin will be that man. Better than he was before. Better, stronger, faster.” Oscar Goldman in the opening narration to the “The Six Million Dollar Man”

If you managed to miss this classic show from the ‘70s, it was about American astronaut and Air Force Colonel, Steve Austin. When Col. Austin suffered a nearly fatal plane crash, the United States government replaced his legs, right arm and eye with bionic parts that gave him super-human abilities.

I thought of Steve Austin today when a fellow survivor asked me the question, “When do all the effects of the horrible things we’ve lived through ever end?” It’s a tough question I’ve asked myself a time or two. I’ve been at this healing thing for years, yet I’m painfully aware of how far I still have to go.

That’s why I thought of The Six Million Dollar Man. He was so injured that he shouldn’t have survived. I feel that way about my childhood. As I look back and realize that to go through those horrifying experiences without anyone to turn to for safety or comfort seem too much for anyone, much less a child.  I survived, but my very being was mutilated.

Unlike Col. Austin, I didn’t have the government’s help to rebuild me. I’ve had to do that job myself. It’s probably cost less than six million dollars, though it’s taken its toll on my bank account, physical body and all of my relationships.

Even though Steve Austin is a fictional character, I wonder if he ever questioned why the government thought his life was worth that much money. That’s a big chunk of change to sink into one person. He may not have ever questioned the value of his restoration, but I sure have. In Steve’s case, he had to repay the government by capturing their enemies. I started out with that motivation too. I began my healing with the belief that my self-improvement was for the benefit of other people.  I’d be a better wife, mother, grandmother, and friend.  It was okay to start there, but my healing has taught me that I’m worth every penny, every moment, every drop of energy I invest in healing, even if it’s just for me. I’m worth it.

The former astronaut’s rebuilding was relatively fast. He had surgery and a short rehabilitation and training and POOF, he was fixed. My process is taking a little longer. I’m not fully operational, but I’m far from the wreck of a life that I was. I’m no super-hero, but with my restoration so far, I feel more whole and self-aware than most people I know who haven’t been through trauma. I think staring death in the face has allowed me to fully live. I don’t have bionic vision, but I do see things with better clarity—not just suffering of others, but solutions to the suffering. I don’t have bionic limbs, but my healing has made me see how strong I really am. I don’t care how long this process takes. I’m committed to finish. I’m already better than I was before. Better, stronger, faster.

Christina Enevoldsen is cofounder of Overcoming Sexual Abuse, an online resource for male and female abuse survivors looking for practical answers and tools for healing. Christina’s passions are writing and speaking about her own journey of healing from abuse and inspiring people toward wholeness. She and her husband live in Los Angeles and share three children and four grandchildren.

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  1. You are my hero, kiddo.

  2. We ARE worth it…whatever it takes however long it takes. No one should have to ever go through the things we have but we did and that we are even still here is amazing…like you said. I, too, feel like I am a totally different person than the one I might have been. I hope my experiences have made me more caring, more compassionate and yes, … See Moremore self-aware. I cannot say that I am happy for what I had to experience but I can say that I am truly doing my best to make the most of it. Thank you, Christina…

  3. Thanks Patty and Penny!

    Penny, I’m not happy about what happened to me, either, but I am happy about the rebuilt version of myself. I may end up with a different version of myself, but I don’t consider any improvement to be due to the abuse. The improved version of myself has only come from the intense need to carefully look at what is inside of … See Moreme. The abuse created that need. It’s been the hard work I’ve invested that has lead to my well-being. The abuse itself made me weaker, but the healing made me stronger.

  4. I love how strong you are! I look to you for hope and inspiration. Hugs.

  5. Thanks, Cassie! Hugs to you!

  6. Better, stronger, faster!! I LOVE THAT! This is a great post Christina! It makes me remember that I can fly!

  7. I think we got superpowers ;) This was a great post!

  8. Thanks, Darlene and Ligeia! One of my favorite parts of the show was when Steve would encounter the bad guys and they thought he was just a regular person. They figured they could easily over-power him. I just loved how surprised they were when he sprung into action. I feel that same delight when I encounter people from my past who knew me as a victim. They are sure surprised when they see who they’re messing with now!

  9. yeaaaaaaaaaah ! x

  10. Christina, you are a heroine for all of us who are also survivors. We are all worth how ever long it takes to heal. I love that show from the 70′s.

  11. Thanks Christina for sharing this! It is always helpful and insightful for me to see and hear how others express themselves.

    Having no “point of reference” or “baseline” to work from or determine if I’m on the right path I can find myself wondering “is this right?”

    Reading and watching…seeing how others communicate and express themselves is like the “mirroring” and validation I did have in my life in the past. I continue to build myself from the inside out:)

  12. ‘ I began my healing with the belief that my self-improvement was for the benefit of other people.’
    Me too. And I have to say in response to this post your insights are priceless

  13. Patricia, Yes! However long it takes to heal, we ARE worth it!

    Susan,
    I like your comment, “seeing how others communicate and express themselves is like the “mirroring” and validation I did have in my life in the past. I continue to build myself from the inside out.” That’s so true that it has to be from the inside out. It’s when we internalize the truth of our value that it flows out. Nobody can do that for us; only we can do that internal work. Thanks for sharing!

    Louise, Thank you!

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